no monkey no more

New Operating System for your Mind

Navigating through this noisy and distracting world is not easy. This page will give you some ideas how to control your monkey mind and bring structure, peace and focus in your daily life.

meditation = freedom of mind

Meditation

Close your eyes and listen to your breath for 15 minutes a day.

day one

Day One

Ask yourself is it one day or day one. Will you postpone your goals, or new habit(s) indefinitely or will you start now?

connect with nature

Nature

Just take a walk in a park or forest once or twice a week and let your mind calm down.

friends

Friends

Pick your closest friends wisely. They will shape and influence who you are and who you will become.

attention industry

Attention Industry

The attention industry in the form of social media, endless news cycles, streaming, and gaming services will turn you into a mindless consumer. It will keep you away from your goals.

living in the moment

Living in the moment

The past can not be changed and the future is unknown. There is only this moment in the here and now. Make the best out of this moment.

journaling

Journaling

Make it a daily habit to bring your thoughts and feelings to paper. There is no better way to learn more about yourself.

daily review

Daily Review

Monitoring progress is a great way to see if your new habits stick and if you are reaching your goals. Review your day before you go to bed.

habits

Habits

It takes time to establish new habits. Take microsteps in the beginning and reach your goals step by step.

reading = superpower

Reading Superpower

Learn to love reading books and there will be no boring moment in your life. Get inspired and turn some learning into action. Little tip on how to find time for reading: Before you reach out to your smartphone to surf the internet grab a book instead.

control

Control

I will always remember this part of the ancient stoic philosophy: You do not control the crazy world around you, but you control how to respond to it.

time

Time

Time is the scarcest resource you have. This sounds ridiculous for young people, but wait until you turn 40.

pace

Pace

Set yourself goals and find your own pace to fulfill them. Do not compare yourself with other people. It does not matter if they are faster or whatever.

anchor your day

Anchor

Anchor your day is the concept of repeating your daily routines/goals on autopilot. They are now part of your DNA. You are not thinking about the little exercise in the morning, reading a book, etc....you just do it.

power of no

Saying No

Learning to say no to external requests like meetings and invitations will give you more me time and the ability to do things that really matter to you. Do not run on other people's schedules.

breaking a sweat

Breaking a Sweat

Breaking a sweat once or twice a week will do wonders for your physical and mental health. Combine sun exposure, and fresh air with some exercise and you will feel like a newborn. As mentioned before start slow.

good sleep

Breaking a Sweat

Giving your body enough rest for 7 to 8 hours every night is the base for a successful and productive day/life. Try to keep this balance for an extensive period of time.

bounce back

Bounce Back

Life can be tough sometimes. Never let negative things break you. Bounce back and overcome these challenges no matter what.

attention

Attention

Where you put your attention to determines your happiness and quality of life.

discipline

Discipline

The daily grind and discipline is needed to achieve your goals. Never forget: The price of regret is much higher than the price of discipline.

investment

Investment

The best investment you can make is in yourself. Read, study, travel and it will broaden your horizon in every imaginable way.

tell yourself

Investment

What would you tell your younger self? Think about the lessons you have learned along the way. There is great wisdom in this exercise. The famous author Mark Twain said once: "I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened."

your legacy

End of Life

What would you like to be remembered for if this would be your last day on planet earth? How would you define a life worth living? How your family and friends should see you? Take a moment to answer those questions.

no leaf

Leaf

Be no leaf in the wind without any direction. Keep yourself focused. Do not listen to negative forces around you.

Pareto Principle

Pareto Principle

It is easy to say to focus only on the important things in life. Here is a little helper. Vilfredo Pareto (1848 - 1923) discovered the 80/20 rule. It says that 20% of your efforts will generate 80% of your outcomes. It is astonishing how accurate this rule is in many areas of life.

expectation setting

Expectations

If you plan to start something new think about the possible outcomes. What if everything goes wrong? Could you still use the learning for a different approach in the future? Which strategy could you use to avoid these negative outcomes? Write your thoughts down. Expectation setting is a great mental model to prepare yourself for different outcomes/situations before they happen.

learning machine

Learning Machine

Be a lifelong learner. Every day when you go to bed be a little bit smarter than when you woke up. It will give you the edge over time.

opportunity costs

Opportunity Costs

It is one of the great mental models to guide you through life. Ask yourself what are the opportunity costs. Let’s say you have 1 hour a day of free time. You could use it for watching cat videos on YouTube or you could learn something about investment strategies in the stock market. The scarcity of our resources (time, money, etc.) is one of the key decision-makers. You can not have it all.

digital detox

Digital Detox

Here is a challenge for you. Reduce your screen time for laptops, smartphones, and TVs one day per week to zero. We are living in the digital age and cutting this addiction will give your mind a well-deserved rest.

happiness

Happiness

Lower your expectations and do not try the impossible. The smaller the gap between the actual outcome and the expected outcome the happier you are.

nutrition

Nutrition

Good nutrition is one of the main ingredients for a sharp mind.

being grateful

Grateful

To get a positive mindset write down every morning three things you are grateful for. It could be as simple as that: I have a roof over my head, a full fridge and I am feeling healthy.

DNA

DNA

Your DNA and upbringing define who you are, but not who you will become.

flow state

Flow State

You are focused on your task and there are no distractions around you. Staying in or reaching this flow state is doing wonders for your productivity. Make it your goal to create this environment for you.

acceptance

Acceptance Love Yourself

Very often we are our harshest critics. Our inner voice never stops. Take a step back and show some love to yourself and accept the way you are.

listener

Listener

Being a good listener is a very underrated skill. A deep understanding of the other side comes from listening first.

perspective

Perspective

To put things in perspective zoom out a bit or better more than a bit. Look from the stars down to planet Earth. Do you see this tiny little blue dot in the middle of nowhere? You are existing there for a blink of an eye. Ask yourself how important you really are and if it is worth wasting this millisecond of existence with endless suffering.

place to live

Place to Live

One of the most important decisions you can make in your life is to find the right place to live. Relationships, job opportunities, and much more are directly related to this. Choose wisely.

stillness

Stillness

Make room in your life for a place with absolute stillness and go there often. You will learn a lot about yourself.

comfort zone

Comfort Zone

Leave your comfort zone for personal growth. Unlock the door and explore new things and possibilities.

solutions vs. problems

Solutions vs. Problems

It is important to focus on solutions not problems. If you face challenges in your job do not complain or avoid finger pointing instead work out a solution.

experiences vs. material things

Experiences vs. Material Things

Create unforgettable moments and experiences for you and your family instead of buying the next pair of whatever.

best self

Your Best Self

Be your best self and do not copy other people. Your personal growth over time will be one of your greatest achievements.

long run

Long Run

Many activities you do right now (investments, diet, exercise, etc.) will show their results or impact in the long run. Be patient and the reward will come.

stop

Stop

Stop the things you hate doing. Many people do not realize this, but you have the choice. You can find a new job, reduce commute time, change the neighborhood, city, etc.

simple truth

Money and Attention

In the capitalist world what they want from you is your money and your attention. The less you give of those the more freedom you have.

no opinion

No Opinion

Never forget you have the privilege to hold no opinion about a subject. This keeps your mind free for the truly important things in life.

center

Center Yourself

With meditation, self-observation, and stoic exercises the goal is not to make you immune to negative forces around you. The goal is to come back faster to your inner center after you experience a rush of anger, exhaustion, stress at work, etc... Once you start understanding yourself and your motivations better the faster you can center yourself and reach a relaxed peaceful state.

change

Change Yourself

Do not try to change other people. You will not be successful. But you have all the power in the world to change yourself.

decouple

Happiness State

Decouple your happiness state from something you try to achieve or get in the future. People who think like I can only be happy with this new job title or with this bigger car will miss the pure joy in the here and now.

rat race

Rat Race

Daily life keeps you always busy. Days and weeks passed by and you had no focus and progress in many areas. This endless rat race is one of the reasons why people feel so unhappy and stressed. Break that cycle create some me time for yourself and fight for these spots like a lion.

good and bad days

Good and Bad Days

Enjoy your good days to the deepest and when you have a bad day look forward with joy and excitement to the good days……..and repeat.

hope

Hope

Always nourish this little flame of hope in you. A hope that pushes you through the bad days. Nothing is static in life and there will be better times coming…for sure.

bubble

Bubble

We all create our own bubbles around us. We follow certain news, books, beliefs, etc… It is good to expand your horizons and burst those bubbles once in a while.

how not what

How not What

Teach yourself how to think, not what to think. Do not jump to conclusions too fast, gain knowledge about some topics first, see both sides in a conflict, etc…

anger

Anger

Many people know once you feel this rush of anger in response to an insult or bad behavior this can end up in very destructive scenarios. It is better to break this pattern by putting some time between stimulus and response. Next time you feel this way start counting till 10 or go for a walk and calm down first.

envy

Envy

There is always someone who is better at something, has more wealth, and success and people get easily envious. The better strategy is to use these situations as an inspiration to improve yourself. Turn it into fuel for your own progress.

looking forward

Looking Forward

Have always something to look forward to. It could be meeting friends, planning your next trip, seeing a new movie, etc… These things make your life exciting and joyful.

consistency

Consistency

Consistency is needed to achieve your goals. Consistency means doing it when you don't feel like doing it. Consistency makes the difference.

curiosity

Curiosity

Curiosity is one of the driving forces to gain more knowledge. Foster this part of you as much as possible.

balance

Balance

How to find balance in a busy life? The answer is to look for things you truly love to do. It could be working out, meeting friends, a quiet moment in the park, etc...

be kind

Be Kind

Just small things like being kind to others can make all the difference. You should create an environment where people around you feel comfortable.

agenda

Agenda

Do not let your life be dictated by other people's agenda. If you are constantly in a rush to fulfill other people's needs, take a break, push back, and reserve time for yourself and your goals.

energy

Energy

Your energy flow is directed by your attention. Invest it wisely.

stress

Stress

A constant high-stress level is really bad for your health and longevity. A more relaxed approach to life should be the goal. Little hint focus only on the things you have influence on.

view

Kids Eyes

The world around us is full of wonders. We tend to forget this in our busy life. View the world through the eyes of a child. Everything is new to them without prejudice.

focus

Focus

Ask yourself: What would be the one thing you have to do today to make your life a bit easier tomorrow? Focus on that task and repeat it daily.

truth

Truth

You need honest feedback for your personal growth. Avoid people who are not trustworthy. Surround yourself with people who aren't afraid to tell you the truth, even if it's sometimes painful.

yes

Big Yes

If you have to make a decision to start something new. Listening to your gut feeling first and if it's not a hell yes, do not do it.

obstacles

Obstacles

Many times in life you will face some big and small obstacles. Before you push through this wall head first, find ways to work around your problems. Reach out for help, listen first before you act, minimize risks, change your mindset, etc.

overload

Overload

Do not forget an overload of information creates a poverty of attention.

good life

Good Life

Everyone has a different opinion of what a good life means personally. As a first step have great and meaningful relationships, take care of your finances, eat healthy, exercise daily, and have enough sleep.

bad mood

Bad Mood

The secret to overcoming a bad mood or negative thoughts is really simple put your shoes on and take a walk for half an hour. This physical activity will change your mindset and you can focus your attention on more positive thoughts.

proactive vs. reactive

Proactive vs. Reactive

Do not wait till things happen to you. Approach your goals in a proactive way. For example, if you are looking for a new job send out applications and do not wait till accidentally a company finds you.

forgiveness

Forgiveness

Jump over your shadow and show forgiveness if someone tells you I am sorry. This is much better than letting the resentments grow and grow...

keep moving

Keep Moving

In times of sorrow, instead of sitting at home and letting your thoughts run wild, keep moving forward. Set yourself little goals like going out in nature, doing some exercise, and getting out of this hole.

overthinking

Overthinking

Many people tend to overthink upcoming challenges. To tell you the truth you will never be able to know all the possible outcomes. Too many - what-if - scenarios will paralyze your decision-making. Set your goal, go for it, and make adjustments along the way.

game time

Game

In your life the question is not so much to find out how best to play the game, the question is to find out what game is worth playing.

herd

Herd

If you want to create something unique do not follow the herd like a sheep. If you do what everyone else does you will not achieve extraordinary results. Do not read only the bestseller books, do not follow the daily news, etc… Develop your own unique mindset.

ideal day

Ideal Day

A great thought exercise is what an ideal day for you looks like. Let’s say you have all the freedom in the world for the next 24 hours to do whatever you want. Write it down. You need to create this North Star goal to know what you are really striving for in life. Now you can create steps to reach this goal.

shoshikantetsu

Shoshikantetsu

I like the Japanese term Shoshikantetsu, which can be translated into Shoshi -> original intent - and - kantetsu -> to carry out. The meaning is to complete something you have originally planned to do. In other words, do not procrastinate. It also does not matter if the task takes a bit longer than intended.

self-imposed limits

Self-imposed Limits

Ask yourself what is holding you back to achieve your goals. Self-imposed limits like no one cares what I have to say, I am not able to learn this, I am not smart enough to start this project, etc. are very common. It can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Instead start with the question: What do I need to do to get this done? Growth comes with pushing the limits.

puppet

Puppet

Do not be like a puppet on a string and make your own decisions. Do not let other people control your actions and way of thinking.

why

Why

Why do you do the things you do? Answering this why and having a personal goal(s) makes it easier to find the energy to fulfill this vision. It starts like why do I want to lose weight because I would like to live longer and be healthier. The next step is creating an actionable plan on how to achieve it.

luck

Luck

There are many gurus and books out there to tell you how easy it is to have success (whatever that means for you). They offer top ten lists on how to get rich fast, being successful at founding a company etc… What they do not tell you is the factor of pure and sheer luck. With the right mind and skillset, you can increase the probability of success, but there is no guarantee that you will reach your goal(s). The point is not to discourage you, but to be realistic.

common mistake

Common Mistake

People often make the mistake of basing future expectations on past experiences and facts, and expecting the same outcomes as before.

reframe it

Problem Challenge Opportunity

When you are facing a problem it is helpful to reframe it in your head, like a problem becomes a challenge becomes an opportunity. Remember this, when you get stuck in such a situation.

changing your mind

Changing your mind

Changing your mind about important topics is not a consequence of stupidity, but a sign of intelligence and learning effect.

walking

Walking

Walking is a game changer when it comes to finding new ideas. I don't know what the secret sauce is, but my best ideas always came when I walked for at least 30 minutes and let my mind wander. Try it.

adapation

Adapation

Nothing in life is forever. Nothing is set in stone. Once you are aware of this, you must make adaptation your greatest skill. The quicker you adapt to a new situation (relationship ending, job loss, health problems, rise of AI etc.), the better off you will be.

true calling and mastery

True Calling

Once you found your true calling/occupation immerse yourself in your work. It takes many hours to master a certain skill, but the secret to success is to stick with it.

AI

AI - Artificial intelligence

We should be making Artificial intelligence a copilot — not the autopilot — for our life and learning. It is a difference if you read a book of 400 pages or if you autogenerate a book summary in 1 sec. Taking always a shortcut is not at all helpful for a deep understanding of a subject.

financial security

Financial Security

Everyone should understand this early in life that financial security means that your passive income should cover your monthly expenses. Living from paycheck to paycheck is a recipe for daily stress and a tough life. Again start very early with small investments in stocks etc... and participate in the compound interest over the years.